HEALTHY BOUNDARIES PROGRAM
Boundary Baseline Program
Boundary Baseline Program
12 lesson online BOUNDARY MASTERCLASS PROGRAM
Confidently shift from overwhelm, fatigue and frustration to
fierce freedom, clarity and thriving relationships!
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Relationships are the cornerstone of our existence. We are in relation with everything that touches our lives. We have a relationship with food, money, people, our past, present and future, and the environment we live in. All of these relations are connected through the golden thread to our relationship with self.
The happiest, successful and most compassionate people
all have one thing in common - the skills to create
clear, solid, transparent, expansive boundaries!
I want to share a story about a “selfless" woman called Rebecca.... perhaps you will be able to relate to her and see parts of yourself in her story…
Rebecca is a kind-hearted, deeply caring, super nice lady.
She is well loved by her community, she is constantly there for others.
Everyone knows that they can call on Rebecca for anything they need... and she will be there - running errands, listening to your complaints, leading campaigns, picking up the load no else wants to, attending almost every social event, school prize giving, professional mingles, supporting her partner’s rising career, her children’s accomplishments and running her own side business all at the same time.
From the outside it seems like Rebecca is PERFECT! She has everything under control, she is happy, successful, has it all. She is popular, beautiful, kind, accomplished.
On the inside - Rebecca feels overwhelmed and fatigued. She does not feel perfect nor happy nor popular. There is a constant critical voice within - which she is sometimes conscious of, at other times not- which tells her that she is "not good enough", and needs to "be more, do more and have more"
….Her body, mind and heart is exhausted.
From time to time she feels resentful towards everyone who demands so much of her attention.
She feels guilty when she has to run from one coffee meeting to the next errand she is doing for someone else. Her mind is scattered in a hundred different directions.
She feels guilty when she says no to a favour, because she feels so blessed in her own life.
She feels guilty when she is so exhausted, that she doesn’t have the extra patience with her kids at night.
Sometimes when she looks in the mirror, she doesn’t know who she is anymore…. And feels like a fraud… but she’s too deep in now.
People have given her this title of 'SUPER-woman' - and now she has to live up to being the Super-mom-friend-daughter-wife-lover-entrepreneur….
Sometimes, in the privacy of her own thoughts she fantasizes about running away…. being completely anonymous... not needing to care for anyone else…. no demands to take care of…nothing to fix or rescue…. no needing to be ‘someone’ for everyone else.
She is always saying yes to everyone else, but never says YES to her own needs.
And then one day.... After years of living this pattern - placing everyone else’s needs in-front of her own well-being....
Her body said
a hard NO!!!!
Demanded to be listened to.
Her body said : “ I have LIMITS”.
She had no choice, and had to listen.
And this is how Rebecca came to sit in my office, to start her Heroine’s journey into the heart of this pattern which needed to change NOW, or her health, relationships and business would be compromised further.
We uncovered that this pattern of pleasing others through self-sacrifice was rooted in early childhood.
When she behaved in a way her primary caregivers wanted her too, she was praised, loved, acknowledged.
When she didn’t behave in accordance with their expectations, she was shamed, dismissed and love was withheld.
This was the first time she placed on the mask, the first time she started EARNING HER WORTH THROUGH PEOPLE PLEASING….
This became her survival pattern into adulthood.
At 40, she realised she barely ever asked herself
what she needed?
What she truly wanted? Or
How she wanted to spend her one precious life…
Her biggest breakthrough came the moment she could let go of the fear of being discovered as a ‘fraud’ - and uncovered that the disease to please was the real fraudster…
it was the identity she created to earn her value…
We did an inventory of the true costs of wearing this mask…the costs were simply too high...
We braved into the part she played in these relationship dynamics. She taught others to depend on her. She gave away her power to needing other’s approval of her - this was the only way she felt good enough.
When Rebecca could own her story, she stopped hustling for her worthiness outside of herself…
She learnt the profound value of setting boundaries to protect her worth, her health, her freedom, her emotional well-being.
She learnt that when others got really upset by her setting these new boundaries, that it was about their own needs which no longer got met.
Now, Rebecca practices the Sacred No - guilt free.
And this has changed her whole life!
Knowing that when she says No, she is saying yes to inner peace, freedom, well-being and radical self-care.
Now, when she says Yes, it is in alignment with her value system which is rooted in compassion, love, truth, connection and being present whole-heartedly.
As Rebecca kept building healthy boundaries and rediscovered her authentic self, she chooses to live, love and lead her best, beautiful life!
If you can relate to Rebecca, and you are READY to do the 'the work", brave the Heroine's journey into Building clear, solid, transparent, empowering Boundaries as your baseline which cultivate living, loving and leading your BEST, most Beautiful Life - then perhaps this Boundary Baseline program is just the course for you?
Mastering the Art of setting and maintaining healthy boundaries, gifts you
Knowing who you are;
knowing what you want & don't want;
and the wise why behind these choices, gifts you the luminous clarity to make decisions easily.
This clarity is your heart-compass which guides choices which align you with living your best life, being your authentic self, making choices which support your true heart's desires.
What would you choose if you felt truly seen?
When we start living in a drama-free zone, we suddenly have more personal time available, more energy, and more compassion.
Living, loving and leading from the core of your personal truth is a game-changer.
Imagine how different your life will be when you feel empowered and completely Free to be your wholehearted self.
What would you do differently if you felt entirely liberated?
At the end of this course, you will have the confidence to advocate for yourself and to reclaim your personal space in your life.
You will have the mindset, the heartfulness and the failsafe tools, to confidently navigate the hard conversations.
Gifting yourself permission to ask for what you need.
How different would your relationships, career and self-esteem be, if you felt heard?
When do we set boundaries?
You feel taken advantage of, or untrusting in relationships.
You feel disrespected, belittled or disregarded.
Your personal space or privacy is being invaded.
You feel bullied, abused or subjected too aggressive behaviour.
You are being subjected to others ideas, feelings and actions.
Time & Energy
You are exhausted from toxic drama and need personal time to recover.
Clearly setting and maintaining boundaries can make or break a relationship, loveship or career.
In the absence of boundaries - chaos thrives!
This is not fluffy work. This is the real work. It’s the kind of work which yields fruits for a life-time.
Often we are unclear about what boundaries actually are, and unaware of how mastering this skill can radically transform our lives in the direction of heart-centered living, loving and leading.
When we are unclear about our personal boundaries and the behaviour, people, and experiences we do or do not want to allow, invite and include in our lives, we will experience:
toxic drama triangles;
betrayal or broken trust;
choosing unhealthy partnerships;
feeling overworked and anxious at the office;
feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, disappointed, and stuck;
struggle with hard conversations;
feeling guilty saying "No"
Your facilitator in Boundary Mastery
Born and raised in South-Africa, my name is Eleftheria, of Hellenic descent, it means liberty or freedom. In essence this is what I stand for - the liberation of the sacred feminine within us all. I have been deeply honoured to have had the privilege to work with women’s personal and spiritual develop for 20 years now. Every story has touched me deeply and has contributed to my own sense of place, purpose and power. My work as transformation facilitator is a marriage between my training in clinical psychology and women’s spirituality. I am passionate about myth and story as healing tools.
Teaching the inner work and skills required to Master Healthy Boundaries has been a recurring topic in both my private sessions with women, and in group seminars, over the course of more than two decades.
The results of this powerful, life-altering practice is so deeply valuable, that I was inspired to create a comprehensive Live 3-day Masterclass Seminar. This class was deeply transformational and soon I started receiving requests for an on-line version.
This masterclass is a compilation of tried and tested techniques and tools which teaches you the "HOW to" stop people from trampling over you; to get out of overwhelm no matter what your circumstances are; and to take back control of your life, so you can live and thrive without resentment.
Focusing souley on the core underlying issues which prevent or block us from setting healthy boundaries, and the know how to maintain and honour our boundaries, so that we can live our best lives. Looking forward to sharing the freedom, connection and compassion mastering the art of boundaries gifts us with you!
Luminous Love, Eleftheria
Boundary Setting Blocks - What is getting in the way?
1. The disease to please
How much time to do end up spending on other people's demands, opinions and requests? One of the top reasons women struggle with setting boundaries, is the fear of disappointing people they care about.
This can be exhausting, and actually creates inner conflict, keeping inner peace outside of your reach. Perhaps you even spend hours ruminating over past conversations and what you should or should not have said?
Seeking approval or permission from others OR protecting yourself to the extend of isolation will never create the authentic life you desire.
Don't think you have it? How many times do you end doing things for others you don't really want to?
When you don't know who you are, what you stand for and what you don't stand for, you will fall for anything.
We receive the love we think we deserve. If you clarify your value system, know what matters most to you, then you will be able to advocate for yourself and negotiate your needs, requests, and preferences in life.
You may think that you don't have a right to your feelings or perspective.
If you can relate to any of the above, then you probably need to clearly define your boundaries, discover the root cause of why you haven't set them, and up-skill your boundary toolkit!
2. Repeating Patterns
Our first experience with relationships are formulated during early childhood. We will repeat what we observed until we consciously evaluate if these past patterns of learned behaviour are serving us in the present.
Women often carry an unconscious belief that they do not have 'the right' to ask for what they need, to negotiate requests, or have permission to speak their truth. These beliefs will lead to weak or no boundaries. The opposite may also apply, where you may have rigid boundaries and protect yourself through aggressive communication to be heard or acknowledged.
Until you re-evaluate your boundary story, you will continue to repeat the patterns.
4. Avoiding Conflict
You may believe that doing everything you can to keep your life conflict free, and doing whatever it takes NOT to rock the boat, in the hope that this will bring you the inner peace you crave.
The awakening truth, is that this strategy of over-giving in an attempt to control the chaos, and avoid the painful emotions, will only attract more destructive conflict into your world.
This high-functioning co-dependency is rooted in an overdeveloped sense of responsibility for other people's actions and emotions.
At the end of this program, you will:
Get clarity on what is and is not Ok with you.
Discover why you have boundary struggles and learn how to overcome it.
Learn how to set boundaries with ease, grace and clarity.
Learn how to manage boundary bullies and energy vampires.
Learn effective communication tools for having the hard conversations.
Learn how to stop abandoning yourself for the sake of others.
How to start living, loving and leading from your authentic self! How can others love you authentically if they don't know you authentically?
Inside the course
This online masterclass program is structured in three modules, and course material is covered in 12 lessons. In each lesson, you will receive expertly designed downloadable PDF worksheets filled with supportive content, and diagrams; downloadable audio and guided meditations, and power-packed video lessons.
You can dive straight into the course work at your own pace, or follow the weekly guide to integrate each step on this empowering journey.
The first step on our game-changer journey starts with a life-review on your current boundary status.
You will identify your current boundary style, and find the sweet spot.
You will clarify exactly what boundaries are, and how they impact your life daily.
We will unpack the 6 different types of boundaries and
learn how to enmeshment creates exhaustion,
how empaths can set & maintain compassionate boundaries, and
how to manage boundaries in the digital age.
Intention | Identify | Illuminate
We will clarify your intention for staying on course, and anchor you for the moments of self-doubt. Our intention is our compass, keeping us on track and accountable. Discover the underlying wise "why" behind your choice of personal and professional terms of engagement. Our why is our motivation which inspires us, to keep on the path.
Uncover your boundary story and the root issues which govern your boundary challenges. In this lesson, we start uncovering the unconscious drivers which prevent you from setting and maintaining boundaries.
Through completing the boundary diagram, you will get crystal clear on where the lines of responsibility are drawn. This assists us to release ourselves from taking on the 'stuff' which is not ours to bare.
Often we spot manipulation in the after effects of manipulation. In this lesson, we illuminate the 'blind spots' we have in relation to others.
We will start listening to our innate intuition. And compile a list of red-flag signals and body prompts which inform us on boundaries being contravened.
Clarify what matters to you most;
Identify your triggers, let go of over & under functioning;
Understand the framework of trust and dispelling defense mechanisms;
Strengthen your ability to stay calm in the face of boundary bullies;
Cultivate compassion in shared boundaries of engagement;
Transform the internal dialogue and narrative which blocks healthy, thriving relationships.
Truth | Trust | Transform
At the entrance of ancient temples, the wise ones wrote: "Know Thyself". When we are clear about who we are, what we stand for and what we don't stand for, boundaries naturally flow from this knowing. In this lesson, we remember who we are and reclaim our worth.
Standing the sacred ground of your boundaries takes courage. In this lesson we empower ourselves with the skills to stand our sacred ground with compassion, love and service. We also learn how to let go of the critics who benefit from our unhealthy boundaries.
In our lesson in trust, we learn about the key factors which are at the heart of trust. Without trust, relationships are on very shaky ground. We unpack the actions which build trust and identify the ones which break trust. We also dive deeper into our self-trust paradigms and transform them into empowering discernment tools.
In our lesson on transformation, we learn about the 3 keys to self-compassion. Cultivate compassion in shared boundaries of engagement; transform the internal dialogue and narrative which blocks healthy, thriving relationships.
Identify your core values;
Learn effective communication tools;
Cultivate the courage to navigate the hard conversations;
Learn how to protect yourself without isolation or building armour;
Clarify the strategies to hold your boundaries in place;
Create your new boundary story and vision.
Values | Vocalize | Vision
In our third module we start laying the baseline to Root for your Rise. We dive deeply into the core of our values through worksheets which ask the pertinent clarifying questions. Then apply these values to boundaries and their consequences. Once we are clear on how our request for engagement looks like, we can also set in motion the response to contravention. This clarity makes decision making effortless, and empowers us with personal freedom.
In our lesson on vocalize, we upskill ourselves with effective communication skills and active listening, so that we can thrive through hard conversations. We start practicing our new healthy responses, and know when to walk away and when to circle back.
We complete our Boundary Baseline journey by creating a new story. We write a clear vision for our lives, and expand this into an invitation. At this point you know exactly which experiences you want to invite into your life, you know which people you want to invite into your inner circle and what actions you need to take to live, love and lead your personal vision.
Bridget Finklaire, Author & Psychotherapist
I knew for some time that I needed to look at boundaries, but I put it off for ages because it didn’t sound very sexy. It sounded cold, harsh and clinical and I could feel my resistance bubbling up. As usual with these things, life forced me into a place where I really had to examine my boundaries for the sake of my own health.
Once I’d committed to the course, I was enthusiastic, but nothing could have prepared me for how fascinating, interesting, powerful and insightful the Master Class Training was! I never knew there was so much to boundaries! This work uncovers deeply hidden blind spots, unconscious childhood patterns and forces you to really ‘know thyself’.
I found it incredibly refreshing that my boundaries were not going to be dictated by someone else: I get to choose what they are, it’s ok to have them and it’s ok to be who I am.
Because Eleftheria is an experienced counsellor and facilitator, she’s able to uncover a great deal in a very short time as well as hold the space for personal challenges to be discussed and resolved. I really felt held. All of us were able to talk through immediate, current problems which we faced within our lives. Understanding everything behind boundaries – what underpins them, what they are, why it’s important to have themand how to put them in place and maintain them – has been a valuable life lesson.
I highly recommend this training!
Sarah Bowes, Urban Savvy Design
I signed up for the Boundaries master class as I felt exhausted in a number of my relationships, both personally and professionally. But there was one particular relationship that left me feeling abused, disrespected, belittled and irrelevant. These negative feelings started echoing through my life and I was feeling bereft and at total loss on how to change my increasing negative self-perception. The Boundaries master class took me on journey through the origins of my limiting self-beliefs from childhood, to the current agony I was experiencing in my relationships and then in to the tools that I could implement to make the necessary changesI needed in my life..
Eleftheria brings a certain kind of magic and presence to the process of personal development healing. It can’t be described with words or touched with your hands but it can most certainly be felt as a patiently powerful presence when she holds the space for you to walk into the depths of your soul to uncover all the self-doubt and fears that have unconsciously held me back throughout my life.
An indescribable shift happens when you start discover the gems of your existence are also hidden in the depths of that same soul. A deeply powerful experience.
Brigitta Bouwer, Yoga Motive
As a woman raised in the fast-paced, highly competitive culture of modern times, I learned early on to associate with the world through the linear thinking of a male-dominated society. This linear thinking led me to live life based on the foundations of control, structure, doing and achieving. Whilst there is nothing inherently ‘wrong’ with living a life fabricated in the striving and achieving mind-set, it was not until I received the expert mentorship from Eleftheria in the ways of accepting my femininity that I began to understand and then experience the harmony which arises from developing a balance between the linear actions of our masculinity and the soft allowing of our femininity.
During the in-depth training of Eleftheria’s Boundary Baseline Course, I learnt how to identify and then create a safe space for myself to expand and grow into the beauty and power of my femininity. Through these teachings I was able to begin the process of healing old belief systems which enabled me to step more confidently into the true nature of my feminine core. It provided me with vital tools which allowed me to go within, to practice compassion, creativity, expression and the art of being. This in turn empowered me to learn how to trust myself and provided the gift of learning to receive. Our femininity is linked to our ability to receive, first from ourselves and then others. By connecting more deeply with the beauty of my femininity, I was more easily able to receive support, love, understanding and acceptance from myself. Which ultimately allowed me to receive the same from those around me.
The work which Eleftheria does is that of a gentle guiding hand, towards knowing and accepting oneself more deeply. She provides a safe space for self-inquiry helping to lead one closer to self-mastery and self-love.
The tools, meditations, courses and 1:1 counselling which Eleftheria provides gifts her clients with an opportunity to be open to receiving the beauty of all of oneself. The masculine and the feminine. The light and the shadow.
Through Eleftheria’s teachings I have gained appreciation for the power that comes from learning to embrace all of myself. Her teachings help others to find the courage to go within, to learn, to love and to accept. Is it in our ability to fully appreciate and accept ourselves that we are able to live a life of purpose, passion, joy and above all love. Her work is transformational and I consider myself lucky to have such wise mentorship and guidance.
Marissa Smuts, Life Aquatic Swim School
Eleftheria is a walking example of someone who lives out their ‘reason for being’. She has discovered her purpose, her ‘Ikigai’, and she is using her gift to make the world a better place, by helping one woman at a time (re)discover their own sovereign truth.
Although equipped with an honours degree in psychology, Eleftheria possesses wisdom beyond what can be gained from studying a textbook and the work she is doing through her online programmes and masterclasses, as well as the physical retreats she offers, (which I consider myself fortunate and blessed to have attended) , is both profoundly beautiful and a very much needed beacon of light.
I resonate deeply with Eleftheria’s passion for nature, truth and integrity and I am blessed to be able to call her a mentor and feminine wisdom coach. She is my go to person when I feel stuck and need insight and clarity on just about any situation. She brings me back to myself and reminds me to trust in my own innate wisdom and intuition.
Thank you Eleftheria for helping me to really believe in, trust and know myself.
This program is guided by Eleftheria. Each week the modules are released, which includes a video tutorial, meditation and reflective exercise. Each Tuesday we have a Live Zoom call which gives you the opportunity to ask Questions, reflect on insights and connect with group of like-hearted women. You can complete each module at your own pace over the course of the week.
Optional Extra: If you want to work through a specific boundary block, you can schedule a Private Sessions with Eleftheria. You can inquire about this option by sending me an e-mail.
Each module will be accompanied by video tutorials
Supportive, downloadable meditations to assist with boundary practice.
Each module is supported with worksheets and exercises to help you get clear.
Live Q & A Calls every week with Eleftheria.
Valued at $700
Drama Detox E-Book (2nd ed.) An empowering guide to living in the drama-free zone.
Access the Drama Detox Challenge Sessions. 7 x 30 minutes recordings of Live Sessions.
Private Facebook group to share boundary triumphs and encouragement.
The deep value of sharing this journey with a circle of like-hearted sisters. Magic happens when women gather in a circle with a common goal!
Educational webinar teaching you the tools to identify manipulative characters, understand pathology and skills to manage difficult characters.
Courageous Conversations Webinar teaching you effective communication tools with compassion.
Are you ready to do the heart-work to cultivate thriving relationships and set boundaries as a self-care practice?
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I'm not sure I know what my boundaries are. Do I need to figure this out before signing up for the program?No, part of the Boundary Baseline core work is to take the time to get clear on your desires, limits, preferences and dealbreakers.
I'm already overwhelmed. How much time will I need to schedule per week?If you are already overwhelmed, it probably means that you've been struggling with boundaries for a while. The way out of overwhelm, is being gently guided by an experienced coach in a supportive environment. All you have to do, is to trust the intuitive guidance which has brought you here. This program has been designed to support you to reconnect with that core place within you, which is grounded, centred, clear and confident. This gifts you immense freedom.... and the opposite of overwhelm. The program leads you through a process, step by step, with enough time and space to integrate all you need to create a life you love. You can do this program at your own pace. You can choose to set aside 15-20 minutes each day or do the weekly lesson in one go on the weekends. For the best results, I recommend that you watch the video's and do the exercises each week. Set aside 60 - 90 minutes per week to do the 'heart-work', and 75 minutes to attend or watch/listen to the replay of the Q & A Coaching call's. You can support & honour your transformation process with setting up a self-care appointment in your calendar. Please remember, you will have lifetime access to the program, so you can return to the lessons at any time.
How does the program work?This transformational program start on Full Moon 3 July 2023. You will have access to the program material from the second you sign up. Each week on Tuesday, we will gather for a Live Q & A ZoomCall Week 1: July 4th Week 2: July 11th Week 3: July 18th Week 4: July 25th Week 5: August 1st Week 6: August 8th You can access all the meditations, videos, lessons, PDF's and bonus material by logging into the program portal, which is accessible from your computer, tablet or smartphone. You will be able to download the lessons, PDF's and meditations onto your devices. You will also be able to ask questions and share insight in our private group social platform.
When does the program start?The program starts when you are ready to set your Baseline to Thriving. If you choose to work through the material at an easy pace with 2 lessons per week, you can complete it in 6 weeks. If you want to dedicate a weekend to work through the material, the program is accessible in this way too.
I'm interested, but I'm still not sure?I hear you. It's a totally normal response to deciding to sign up for a program which has the potential to catalyse change in your life. And change is scary for us! At times we may even choose to stay stuck because it's familiar. It's really scary to start thinking about setting boundaries, let alone start the process of learning how to do it. Eleftheria has 20 years experience in helping women breakthrough the barriers which hinder boundary setting and maintaining. She has specifically designed this program in a way which guides you in a supportive community of fellow journeyers. You do not need to walk this path alone. You are reading this for a reason. Something inside you, lead you here. To this moment. If you have a gut feeling which is saying "Yes!"... answer the call. You are saying YES to breaking through limiting beliefs, access to the tools to create sustained change in your life and to start identifying your true value - to embody your true self. This is the journey to compassionate communication and thriving relationships. A path to experiencing more fulfilment, energy, freedom and success in all aspects of your life. The Boundary Baseline Program provides you with the encouragement, structure, support, and women's circle to start this journey to authentic living, loving and leading.
Is this program appropriate for me if I have past trauma?This program is not suitable as a substitute for trauma therapy, but can be a supportive compliment to it. If you have unresolved, painful past trauma which you have not worked through, which is negatively impacting your relationships and life, then this program is not appropriate for you. It would be best for you to work with a trauma specialist before attending this program. If you are currently in therapy, please share this program with your therapist for input on whether it will be a supportive compliment to your healing journey. If you have past trauma, which you have worked through with a therapist, then this program will be complementary and appropriate for you.
Do I have a limited time to access the program material?No, you have lifetime access to the program. Also, all the lessons and audio materials are downloadable to your device, so that you can have access to it at any time.
What makes Boundary Baseline program different to other boundary courses online?The Boundary Baseline program is based on tried and tested tools which has worked for my clients, and myself, for two decades. It is a masterclass, with all the tools you will ever need, to create thriving relationships. This program has been designed as a deeper dive into the root causes of what stops up from effectively communicating our needs, deepest desires, from our feminine core. This masterclass is a compilation of tried and tested techniques and tools which teaches you the "HOW to" stop people from trampling over you; to get out of overwhelm no matter what your circumstances are; and to take back control of your life, so you can live and thrive without resentment. Focusing souley on the core underlying issues which prevent or block us from setting healthy boundaries, and the know how to maintain and honour our boundaries, so that we can live our best lives. Looking forward to sharing the freedom, connection and compassion mastering the art of boundaries gifts us with you!